Dependence limits us, but detachment frees us from all frustrations
It’s not easy to get out of the comfort zone. It makes us feel confident, it is a controlled space where we know perfectly a environment and how it works. In the comfort zone, nothing surprises us, and therefore nothing can hurt us. We usually have everything we think we need, between things and people. But more importantly, many times our comfort zone is strictly linked to dependency. This dependency is usually subject to another person, perhaps a mother, a child, a partner, or in the same environment that provides us with unlimited amounts of what we need. However, dependency causes frustration and it is not until we abandon it that we become free.
Free yourself from the frustrations of dependency
How hard it is to break free from dependency. Everyone at some point can become dependent on something or someone that prevents them from growing or moving. Some people sometimes manage to let go and fly free but others lose their lives just trying to make the decision to take that leap of faith.
When we join our friends and our partners, and even when we become attached to our families, we must understand that the right way to do it is to become them and to become toxic people. Why? Simple, because we limit our own freedom and theirs, and by limiting freedom, we also limit happiness.
When we become attached to someone or something, we stop living for ourselves to start living for and with others. In fact, more nice people may appear in our lives but we avoid meeting them because we have simply become addicted to one person.
Without a doubt, this only reflects that we have learned to live with ourselves, something that is crucial in life, because many times we need that solitude, that space to be in private to think and reflect on the steps we are taking. We avoid growing up and therefore we feel that something is definitely missing, and this causes a certain frustration in our lives, a frustration that many times we do not detect at first but when it is already too late.
If we really want to live happily in our lives, we must leave aside attachments, obsessions and of course addictions. Instead, it is important that we value ourselves as independent people, that we focus on our lives and realize that happiness is actually within us and that we don’t need anyone.
By understanding this we will see that people are there to be a complement in us, a support, someone to share the happiness we carry within us and if we choose the right one, that person will share their happiness with us too. It is a healthy reciprocal society that becomes pleasant and harmonious.
Remember, dependence limits us while independence frees us. We are not asking you to move away from the person you are with, but to look inside yourself and tell yourself which context you are in.