Sometimes I don’t cry out of weakness, but because I’m tired of being strong
The one who cries is often not a vulnerable person, but someone strong who is exhausted. Our societies have taught us to appreciate crying as a sign of weakness, but they could not be further from the truth.
Crying doesn’t solve anything’: a terrible myth
People who cry show emotional health first and foremost. Crying is completely valid in situations of high tension, frustration and tiredness. Life demands a lot from us and sometimes we just need to let go. After crying we experience a sense of relief that no other emotion could provide. By crying, we get rid of all the tension and gain new strength to go on.
Therefore, although you have often been told that ‘crying will not solve things’, the truth is that crying is one of the most intelligent and liberating actions when we feel that situations are overcoming us.
Carrying the weight of the world is not easy and most of the time we are surrounded by people who count on us for everything, but who we cannot count on. Not every day you can be strong, when a tear comes out, do not hide it out of shame or whim, because it is a sign that you need to stop a little because it is already too much.
There are people who are extremely sensitive, others simply face such difficult situations that can break their spirit. If you are one of the latter, you must allow yourself space and time to cry, because not all the time you can take responsibility and save the day. At times you need to be saved, and if there is no one around you to do it, you need to do it yourself.
When you want to hold back from crying, remember:
- Crying accelerates healing.
- It reveals the problems that you hadn’t even been aware of.
- Crying generates a powerful relief that is the first step to a great change. It makes us take on our emotions and release them.
- It allows you to focus on yourself and bring out the best in everything you’re processing.
- After the crying comes the calm, and it is in that state that you can make the best decisions.
We always come to a moment where we feel that problems are overtaking us, they call it a quagmire. We are faced with problems from which we see no way out, and if there is, it is too painful or we are too tired. Many people in these situations suffer a terrible evil and that is to want to appear strong all the time. It is revealing to know that the most emotionally healthy people cry their eyes out whenever they can, as they validate all their emotions as a way to experience, nurture and detoxify their mental health.
Next time you want to cry, don’t hold back. You may not want to do it in public, but at least set aside some time and space to detoxify yourself through crying. You’ll feel much better after that.