That moment when you lose respect for someone
Respect is one of the qualities that we must fight for the most throughout our lives, it is something that is earned many times over time. Once it is achieved, the feeling is unparalleled, but if it is not nurtured with facts, this quality can be broken and lost forever.
The importance of respect
We all seek respect in our lives, in some way it is what many consider most important. A person may not want you, love you, or feel any kind of affinity for you, but that does not take away from the fact that they respect you. Respect is a quality that once you reach it you feel in the greatest glory because the treatment of others to you is becoming better and better.
Respect can even cause a degree of intimidation. People who have respect for another person will rarely lie to them, gamble with them, or even talk about them behind their backs. Respect places a person at a much higher level where those who come to him or her do so with distinction, with care, knowing how to choose the right words, acting in fact, more transparently so as not to offend.
When we feel respect for someone it is because we care about that someone, because we feel a certain connection or affinity or because it somehow generates a certain feeling or sense in us towards them.
When we lose respect for someone
But what happens when you lose respect for someone? This is one of the most fatal moments in our lives. It’s an indescribable level of disappointment. When we lose respect for someone the first thing we tend to think about is how wrong we were with this person. We even feel guilty for having given them so much trust.
We laugh ironically with ourselves as we remember how much we admired him in the past, we remember his words, we remember the promise of being human that we thought he would be but in the end he never got to be even half of it. We were usually disappointed because in the past we felt completely confident that this person would not fail us. However, it turned out to be just like everything else we had seen before.
Somehow you think you’ve seen it coming, you begin to remember the signs, the excuses, the inconsistencies, but you immediately laugh because you realize that because of that trust and respect you had for him, you preferred to ignore all this and now you’re facing a terrible situation in which you end a relationship, perhaps a family one, perhaps a friendship one, or perhaps a couple one you never expected to end.
This loss of respect results in our standards being raised, we end up creating a much higher wall than the people who perhaps were not to blame, they will have to climb up if they want to enter our lives, because the least we will want is to get involved with more people who will only come to disappoint us.
The unfortunate thing about losing respect for someone is that it leaves us more reason to be on the defensive. However, to avoid such a degree of disappointment, it is important to avoid idealizing a person at all costs. We must understand that we are all human and we can make mistakes, in fact, perhaps the best thing is to know and understand that everyone around you will make mistakes, but do not let this stop you, it is natural and once you accept it you will see life simpler.
Of course, also maintain certain standards at the top, because there are certain areas of your life where those who enter must be people you can trust. Make them always earn your trust because it will always be the greatest treasure they can achieve from you.