Be good to others but don’t get caught foolishly
Helping selflessly is one of the most important principles that exist, but we must establish limits within the goodness, because there will always be those who want to take advantage of our good intentions.
Being nice is one thing and being dumb is something else altogether, yet the line between the two can be very thin. In order for us to live healthy relationships and truly contribute to our happiness, we need to be able to identify each of these principles in our behaviors.
Empathy: The basis of kindness and compassion
Goodness is a characteristic that defines the personality of people whose emotional intelligence favors relationships with their environment. To be kind we need to develop the best of ourselves and become empathetic people capable of understanding the qualities and limitations of everyone equally.
This feeling can change our view of reality, and so we can begin to leave behind our needs to meet those who are in need. However, if we do not know how to handle our goodness with wisdom and discernment, it can easily put us in uncomfortable situations where we are manipulated by others, and put at risk everything we plan for ourselves.
It’s important to understand that goodness also has a limit
Being kind is an admirable act, but you must be careful about giving your help to people who will take advantage of it. It is necessary to have dignity in everything we do, because this will be the weapon with which we will prevent them from controlling our lives, always having our own needs as a priority.
Many people accept the help we offer just to get a head start on us. They may not even need help, but they know that we will always come to give them a hand in the name of love and we will be giving them a way to hurt us.
We need to keep our eyes open for those who always need to be “saved” and define strategies to help them. When we offer our unconditional support, we place ourselves in a situation of emotional vulnerability, but others also need to make an effort and do their part, remember that we are all capable of doing great things, don’t be fooled just because you have a big and kind heart.
Everyone around you doesn’t have the same intentions, keep all your virtues and values for those who really appreciate who you are, be good to others, but don’t become someone else’s useful goofball. Know your limits and make other people respect them so you can be happier.
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