Don’t look, let them find you
Love is not pursued, it is found. There is nothing more exhausting than chasing after someone to bring about love (sometimes unrequited). And conversely, finding love while following our own paths is blessed.
There is no lack of time, there is a lack of interest. The same effort you make to find a person can be reciprocated. If you are always the one who calls, the one who seeks and the one who apologizes, you are only chasing a love that does not correspond to you.
The beautiful, healthy and stable love is the one that finds you, and not because that person was looking for you, but because their paths crossed at the right time. Love does not beg, when you do it, the only thing you achieve is to prolong your emotional suffering. Someone who does not love you today will not “learn to love you” tomorrow, because love is not learned, it is lived.
It often happens that we prolong a relationship with someone who does not love us, thinking that time and our interest will convince him to love us. Yes, it’s a soap opera cliché, but more happens than you think, and that is that as human beings we have the tendency to convince ourselves of what we deeply desire but that does not correspond to reality. But out of self-love, it’s time to look at reality, and stop pursuing an unrequited love.
Don’t beg for love, stay with the one who loves you sincerely
Don’t stay with the one you think will come to love you, or the one you want to believe loves you. Love is demonstrated by deeds, not words. And not with outrageous deeds, no, but with small details. A message, a favor, a hug, an action that reflects consideration, etc. are acts that turn on the detectors of love. It is not so difficult to know that a person loves you.
And on the other hand, always remember that it is better alone than in bad company. There are people who do not resist loneliness because they are afraid to know themselves. And the fact is that loneliness is the best ally to reflect and improve ourselves as people. Therefore, it is better to stop pursuing, stop orbiting other people’s lives and focus on ourselves, letting love find us.
When love finds you, you go with the flow, you don’t have to fight, you don’t exhaust yourself trying to love, everything flows and nothing is destroyed. Have you lived a love like that? If you have not happened, maybe you’ve been chasing, orbiting the lives of others, giving attention and importance without receiving anything in return. But it is time to move forward and take a new breath and follow your path.
Let love find you on your way. Only then will you experience the joy of loving and being loved. You won’t waste your time or steal anyone’s space. Good luck!