When we grow up, a focused mind attracts more than a pretty face
A focused mind and a kind heart are more valuable than a pretty face. Maturity brings clarity, teaches us to see what really matters and gives us criteria to find invaluable people.
When we are teenagers or very young, we are very worried about what they will say and we just want to please others, even more than ourselves, by having a model couple. In fact, there are people who build their circle of friends based on what they have, what they look like and how they look. They can’t conceive of having a good friendship with someone who doesn’t have, don’t look, and don’t look like an Instagram influencer.
However, when we have learned (sometimes the hard way) that genuine people are not necessarily the most charming, we manage to surround ourselves with the right people.
When we grow up, finding a partner is both easier and more complex. Pretty faces and good bodies are not enough, we learn to prioritize what is in people’s minds and hearts.
Not with this should we establish the stigma that “beautiful women are crazy” or that “handsome men are all dogs”. Women with emotional imbalances can be pretty or unattractive, just as unfaithful men can be super models or unattractive boys. The point is, appearance is no longer a priority, it takes a back seat, because we learn that a healthy, long-lasting and enjoyable relationship can only be achieved with a person with a focused mind.
Appearance can be that first good impression that we like so much, but after that we are anxious to know what that person is like, what he or she keeps inside. The first conversations are crucial to know if you can really project yourself into the future (or even the present) with that person. If there is nothing there, no matter how attractive the person is, it is certain that if the only thing that attracts you is their physique, you will only want to have a physical relationship.
Do you want a trophy wife or husband? Examine yourself, you probably need to grow up and learn a lot about life. It is better to discover what is really valuable about people when you are young. Because when old age, scarcity and illness arrive, you will want to have a loving, kind and intelligent person by your side, not someone who demands goods and attention from you.
Nails and false eyelashes fall out, and all skin sooner or later wrinkles. Even the most beautiful faces get old. But bright minds and kind hearts only get richer with the passage of time. What is in a woman or a man who only cares about his appearance has a price, but what is kept in the mind and heart is priceless.