Parents’ toxic relationship leaves marks on their children
Our children are highly influential, anything that happens around them affects them in a decisive way. That’s why if you live a fairly toxic relationship with your partner, be careful because everything is being absorbed by your child.
Parents’ toxic relationship greatly affects their children
How many times have we heard men and women say that they make great fathers? Many boast that they give their children a lot of attention, that they are always there for them when they need them, that they give them everything they want. In short, they strive to give them all the love in the world. But how many of these parents are together? And if they are, how many of them are really living in a harmonious relationship?
Surely many, but the truth is that most people won’t say it, usually parents don’t know they are in a toxic relationship until it is too late and everything falls apart. This toxic relationship can come from problems such as infidelity, lies, lack of communication or other factors that over time, become determinant for a breakup.
Other times, the problems are more external, such as problems in the field of work, economic problems, problems with the boss for whom you work, problems with family or friends, or anything else that we end up taking home just to generate bad times.
Whatever the reason, these problems steal your home’s positive energy, and over time your partner begins to stun you and they stop getting along as well as they used to. In the face of this, most times we ignore the problem, instead we put aside the relationship and focus on the only thing that we believe matters, namely “our children” and of course, on work, money and paying the bills. Without knowing it, we have a toxic relationship.
Other couples live in constant conflict, arguments that end in shouting or worse, physical aggression. Without a doubt, a situation that is not advisable for anyone, especially for our children. Children hear, see, and feel when things go very wrong with their parents’ relationship. They can perceive everything even if we see them as completely innocent, and all this could cause them a very great evil.
Many children end up believing that they are the cause of fights or even separation from their parents, something that can make them feel insecure, depressed and stressed. Without realizing it, we are turning our children into victims of our couple’s fights.
Therefore, it is very important to include our children in every aspect of our lives. That is, if we feel that our relationship with that loved one is no longer on track, we should seek professional help and learn to talk to our children about these problems. We must make them understand the things that are happening around them, make them see that they are not to blame for anything and that they will always be loved.
Apart from that, if the problem is not the separation, equally the professional help will allow you to have a chance to recover the trust and respect that you lost as a couple and thus live more in harmony, not so much for you as a couple but for you as parents. This is something the children will appreciate.