Marital status: Happy!
Under social pressure we have mistakenly associated finding a partner with happiness. That’s why we live such ephemeral, empty loves, we go from one relationship to another without making anything concrete, and what have we been looking for? To complete ourselves in the other, to find happiness in the other. Today what you should know or remember is that you are already perfectly complete and can be happy with yourself.
Some people can’t stand being alone. The truth is that they don’t know each other and spending time alone for them is like spending time with a stranger in an uncomfortable waiting room, where neither of them knows what to say nor have anything in common. This is how far away we can be from ourselves when we are filled with so much noise, so many presences that do not define us.
Other people, in the name of a love that no longer exists, maintain tortuous relationships. Deceived and seduced by mirages, they prefer to suffer and maintain a relationship, or at least its facade, at the expense of their own happiness.
No one should tell us when to love. Love takes time, but the only love that is indispensable to happiness is the love you feel for yourself. All other loves can come and go without necessarily bringing you down, for you have the most valuable foundation that builds you up: self-love.
Don’t force yourself to love for fear of loneliness or appearances, because all you get out of this is to get away from yourself and your happiness.
Many people believe that the journey of their lives is related to “finding love”. Indeed, it is intrinsically linked to finding love, but not in another but in oneself. The idea is that when the time comes to close your eyes on this plane, you have loved yourself immensely, to the point of overflowing with love for others.
Many friends, as much as you love them, are just passing through. And likewise, many loves, however much you love them, are not destined to spend their lives with you. We are born alone and from this world we will leave alone, the journey is individual, although on the way we meet wonderful people. But the people you love should not take you away from you, but closer to you by helping you to know new versions of yourself, to explore emotions and moods.
It is good to cry for a love, it is good to love intensely, because with this you also know yourself, you appreciate yourself from another perspective and you even comfort yourself. What is not right is to run away from loneliness and take refuge in false relationships that only crack your own happiness.
Therefore, the best marital status is to be happy with oneself, with what one has and with what one has lost (which in the end is gain). We must let go of the old and put on new things, love those we love and let go of those we have long lost, because the most important thing is happiness, kept as a treasure, in our own hearts.