Matching someone is wonderful, but “connecting” is really magic
Matching someone is a wonderful thing, but “connecting” with someone is truly magical.
It’s easy to meet someone else, we do it often or even every day with dozens of individuals, so we could say it’s not that important. However, what is truly magical is to enter into “connection” with the mind and heart and quickly discover how our worlds harmonize. We might think that this happens only in fiction, but life has its incredible and unknown processes.
We are not talking about love at first sight, but about the wonderful connection that builds the strongest friendships, those that overcome time and distance. Friendships that are based on complicity, pacts, emotional harmony, mutual concern and tenderness. This connection is part of a growth process in which we learn to share, help and be helped.
The laws of attraction and friendship
When we talk about friendship, research always focuses more on its benefits than on its causes, that is, the underlying processes that trigger that crucial “magic connection”. Now, let’s look at that essential aspect. Friendship hides much more complex aspects than those that determine the simple attraction of a couple. There are a number of psychological laws and dynamics that are interesting to know.
Self-discovery
The most authentic friendships are not based solely on sharing common interests or having the same tastes or values, not even the good times determine the strength or significance of a friendship. Social psychology experts know that there is a turning point that determines whether a friendship will last or not. It is self-discovery.
As individuals, we need to share our fears and concerns with others to get support, to feel that intimacy and therapeutic complicity. When we open up and convey trust and the other person is able to protect and support us, then the magic begins. If we achieve reciprocity that same magic remains.
The emotional “cement” and the law of the mirror
Friendly relationships are strengthened by “emotional gifts” such as loyalty, consideration, unconditional support, recognition, sincerity or the ability to promote our personal development. There is another very interesting thought from social psychologists Carolyn Weisz and Lisa F. Wood of the University of Puget Sound in Tacoma, Washington. It is the Mirror Theory or the Mirror Principle of Friendship.
To connect with someone is to find a person who corresponds to our identity, that is, we find a person who acts as our own reflection or point of balance. The good friend will be the one who can tell us the truth about what we do and the decisions we make, who alerts us when we are moving away from our essence.
Our brains need to make friends with special people
We may call it intuition or the sixth sense, but our brain often knows who to “connect” with best. Our brains love solid and lasting friendships for a very specific reason: they help us survive, to give more meaning to our daily lives. Believe it or not, the friendships we truly connect with cause us to secrete various substances that help eliminate stress and increase our sense of happiness.
Let life magically connect us with those special people who make our reality a more wonderful, warm and interesting playground.