Attitudes that parents of shy children should avoid
Do you have a very shy son? Well, in the following post we present you some attitudes that you should correct so that little by little these little ones become more confident of themselves, because the fault of their being like that could be yours.
5 attitudes that parents of shy children should avoid
Here are some attitudes to avoid in order to raise safer and happier children.
Being overprotective
Don’t look to be the super dad all the time. Most of the time, as parents we want to pamper our child and prevent him from experiencing anything that might hurt or affect him psychologically. This is not bad, but you must understand that if he is very shy, this is not going to help him create some kind of security, instead you will make him more insecure. He will want to continue to seek refuge in you, and we know that you like this now because your child is young, but over the years this insecurity will become entrenched to the point of doing much damage. So, let him have his experiences, and face his fears and insecurities.
Exposing shyness to other children
With your child, you have probably already used phrases like: Cat got your tongue? Anything you remember telling your child about his shyness in front of other children probably ended up having the opposite effect. Children see in your sentences a justification for what they don’t do, which in this case is talk.
They don’t need to be embarrassed, nor do they need to justify their shyness to their friends, instead they invent games where they have to join in with other children such as a children’s party. At first it will be hard for him to integrate, but give him time, the other children will come to him and if you are not there to overprotect him, he will eventually give in to the group.
Compare it to other children
Love your children for who they are. Never say things to them that in any way compare them to other children, because your children deserve all the respect you can give them. A shy child is not ready to face certain circumstances, so if you compare him with another child who lacks these problems he will obviously win the contest and you will make your own child feel bad.
Forcing your child to do what he or she doesn’t want
Forced things will never work out, each child requires different time and effort, so not only should you avoid making comparisons, but you should also not pressure them to do what they don’t want to do. Be very subtle when you take him to mingle with other children, so that he doesn’t realize what you’re trying to do, and if you see that things don’t flow the way you expected, just abort the mission and try again later. The least we want is a frustrated or stressed child.
Being authoritative
Finally, showing yourself all the time as an authoritarian parent will only make your child more shy. We invite you to seek only to raise your child with love and care, always respecting his or her personality type and observing any kind of behavior that could harm him or her. That’s all your child needs to be happy and feel safe with himself.