Avoid hanging out with those who hide the phone. True love does not require a password
Stay with the person who inspires you to be so confident that you don’t have to check their phone. Thanks to the Internet, social networking and messaging applications, cheating is easy and options abound for even the most unlovely. So what do we do? Do we live in paranoia with relationships based on mistrust or do we nurture safer and more trusting relationships with real, authentic people?
A person’s mental and emotional health can deteriorate rapidly when living under distress and paranoia. When a person is unfaithful to you, it makes all their truths come into question, you begin to doubt even yourself and paranoia sets in. Every message, every call, every clue is interpreted as suspicious and the worst thing is that most of the time they are.
It’s exhausting to be in a relationship where every call and message means something bad, but you can’t know for sure because you don’t have access to that device.
In this post we won’t ask you to blindly trust and forget the mistakes of the past, but neither will we tell you that it’s healthy to live in distress, looking for the right moment out of the corner of your eye to learn your cell phone password. If you do this, you are not in a healthy relationship, you do not trust and therefore, your fragile relationship will eventually break down.
Having access to your partner’s cell phone is synonymous with trust, however, it is not something that should be forced. That is, if he removed the password because you gave him an ultimatum or threatened to end it, that’s not a real decision that breeds trust, it’s just a warm washcloth. The person on his own initiative should allow you to see what he has on his cell phone if necessary, but it’s not something you should demand or get intense about, because you could be smothering your partner with your demands.
However, keep in mind that the best relationship is one where neither one has to ask nor the other is forced to give. In other words, you will be really happy when you don’t have to keep an eye on your partner’s cell phone, when you don’t lose sleep over his password or messages, because you know what kind of person you are with.
Let’s disconnect to connect as a couple!
If you really love your partner and the love is reciprocal, but social networks and messaging apps have always been the perfect context for threats to your relationship, a healthy way to grow the relationship without invading the other is to make a deal. If the relationship is really important to both of you, you can agree to move away from social networks and messaging apps to cultivate your relationship, because true love does not come out.
It’s not definitive, but a little fasting might do the relationship some good. If one party cannot comply and the other cannot trust, then there is no remedy.