The person you should love most in your life: Yourself
To love others you must learn to love yourself, if you cannot feel respect and love for yourself, it will be impossible for you to give that to others. Unfortunately we spend our lives sacrificing our interests, tastes and satisfactions to please others. Maybe society has imposed that on us to see us as good people, but isn’t the goal of living to achieve happiness? To be happy you must be happy with yourself and you achieve this when you learn to love yourself.
No one can give what they don’t have, and if you have no self-respect how can you say you love others? There are countless stories of people who live in frustration because they have dedicated themselves to studying what their parents wanted, they married the person who was expected to do so because he met the requirements of those around him. They sacrifice their interests for the sake of their children, parents, siblings, friends and at the end of the day, they find themselves sad and empty, living a life that is not what they dreamed of.
Why you must learn to love yourself
It’s not just about you, if you want to make others happy, you have to be happy yourself. A person who is satisfied with his life is someone who is cheerful, assertive, and has the enthusiasm to give and receive. When you have tried to make others happy at the expense of your own happiness, you become bitter, frustrated and unhappy, unable to give others something you don’t know.
So is it worth sacrificing what you want to be in order to give others satisfaction and then be pushed aside, because you live being what they want, but irritable, unbearable and with a bad vibe?
Loving you will give you the ability to know what you want, to accept advice, but to make your own decisions, set goals and fulfill your dreams. It’s a fair thing, everyone has their own life and it’s not logical that someone doesn’t fulfill their goals and then tries to make others dedicate their life to fulfilling the dreams that don’t belong to them. Your responsibility is to be happy and to achieve this you must follow your dreams and your objectives.
Listen to all the advice, value the opinions, but the decision must always be yours. Do not allow others to abuse you, thinking they will be upset, if they do it is their problem, not yours.
The pleasure of loving you
When you learn to love yourself, to recognize when a favor is just that and you do it because you want to. When you have the decisions of your life in your hands and you can feel that you love yourself above all, you will know the feeling and you can love others. But always with respect.
You will also learn to respect others, to achieve your goals through yourself and not through others and in this way you will be a loved and valued person.
If some can’t understand your position and walk away, it doesn’t matter, they weren’t suitable for your environment. The one who wants the good for you will learn to admire your courage and respect your decisions. Never forget that to love others you have to know how to love yourself.