Being honest saves us time
Total sincerity is one of the ideals we find most difficult to achieve. We believe that if we always tell the truth and in a direct way, we will lose relationships and life will become more lonely.
The first point to consider is loss: we are afraid of losing the people to whom we will tell the truth. Is that a painful loss? Who are we afraid of losing? If the person we are honest with leaves our side, it is because he or she should never really have been there.
On the other hand, life will not become more lonely if we tell the truth, since existence is a constant becoming of situations and people, so when someone leaves by the back door, a new person enters by the front door.
Why are we driven to lie? Lying is ingrained in us in a very strange and even contradictory way. Those who teach us not to practice it end up becoming, without knowing it, the main cause of this defect that we practice so insistently.
Parents: the origin of our lie
We cannot deny that our parents are the first to teach us not to lie. Among their valuable teachings is that of always resorting to the truth. However, when they finish saying this, they move on to the part of the demands. Most parents have high expectations of their children, and what wouldn’t we do to make them proud of us?
It is at this stage that we begin to make the mistake of lying. We believe that if we break the truth and tell them what they want to hear, they will be happy to be our parents.
Then begins an odyssey that will become so deeply rooted in us that we will drag it into adulthood. For fear of losing our friends, our job and our partner, we are capable of telling any kind of lie. However, this only leads us to hold on to people who are not good for us.
The reasoning is simple: if I have to lie, that person is not for me.
Why is honesty a way of life?
In addition to being one of the most sought-after values today, honesty made a habit will allow you to access all this:
Healthy relationships: a relationship based on lies is a sick relationship. And lying is not only linked to fidelity. We may think we are sincere because we practice monogamy, but we may be lying in other ways. Do we like what we say we like? Are we really happy? Starting by answering these basic questions can give us a clearer picture of how sincere we are.
Being by the side of who you are: when you apply honesty, people who were not good for you leave your side, while those who should always have been part of your life come closer.
Save time: lying only prolongs painful processes. If you keep someone by your side based on false claims, the situation will become negative for you. It is better to be honest and save time: whoever has to leave, leave now.
Put honesty into practice and you will see your life become more hygienic and purified.