Your child will follow your example, not your advice
It has always been said that it is easy to give advice, but not to follow it. Well, with our children we have to be people who are committed to ourselves, because they will be more attentive to what we do than to what we tell them to do.
Be the best example for your children
We know that when it comes to children, homework is not as comfortable. From the first moment they enter this world we are responsible for their lives and their growth, much of what they do, or much of their behavior will be a reflection of what they have seen in us as parents, which is why we must be prepared to set the best example.
If you think about it, human beings are more used to giving advice than to following it. For some reason, we consider ourselves experts in subjects such as love, addiction, cheating, work, education, and we even feel that we are truly wise when talking to people who are in trouble and who look to us for support that can offer them the perfect advice in the face of their problem.
This is not bad, because by instinct we can often offer great answers that can make us look like wise people. However, how many times has it happened to you that you advise a person to go right when you would not even try to go there. For example, perhaps you have happened to advise your best friend for his breakup when you still do not know how to deal with yours.
This may not affect much when it comes to friends or any other adult. But it definitely makes a difference when it comes to counseling children. Children tend to be more visually impaired than you might think. That’s why they’re experts at imitating behavior that we often disapprove of.
Children are like sponges and will soak up anything in their path. For this reason, it is important to be a good example to follow because this will help our children to pay more attention to us.
For example, let’s think for a moment about lunchtime, we constantly demand that our children eat their vegetables and their greens, but have they seen you eat them? If the answer is yes, then you have a good case for telling your child to do so, but if you’re a vegetable hater, how will you get your child to eat them? Do you think that just by explaining that it’s good for their health, they’ll listen to you? Obviously not.
We must also point out something important, which is that our children tend to quickly forget the words we say to them, as they tend to be distracted. For this reason it is essential that we become living examples to them. We assure you that in this way you will form excellent children because at the same time you will have become an excellent person and father.