How difficult it is to relate to people who are offended by everything we say
Here we go again: it’s our turn to apologize because we offended someone who is usually sensitive to what we said. You probably have a friend or family member that you love deeply and for whom you are able to apologize 7 times a day just to avoid hurting their feelings. But the truth is that it’s completely exhausting to have to measure everything we say, emasculate our words and attitudes and even create an alternate identity just to take care of their hearts.
Sensitive people most of the time cannot laugh at themselves. They don’t know how to handle jokes even though they know they come from people who would never want to hurt them. Sometimes you don’t even need to do anything to hurt a sensitive person. If you forget to pass on a message, it’s enough. They can stay away from you for a long time until you apologize for offending them.
You always have to explain yourself to sensitive people. “I didn’t answer you because…”, “That’s not what I meant”, “I went out with other friends just to fulfill the invitation because…” And that’s because sensitive friends even get irritated if we spend more time with other people because they think we’ve abandoned them. They demand attention and affection as if we were in debt and do not allow the relationship, the meetings and the talks to flow organically.
A sensitive friend can be a headache, because what you do or don’t do can hurt him or her as intensely as if it were a betrayal, a bad joke or a malicious joke.
Sensitive friend: low self-esteem or egocentricity
Your friend can be extremely sensitive because he has a deteriorated self-esteem, because without realizing it he is egomaniacal and demands more of the attention he needs, because he is manipulative or because he does not know how to deal with his emotions and under any circumstances he becomes fragile.
You can love him, understand him, and apologize to him many times, but no one can stay too long with someone so touchy.
If you are one of those people who take offense at everything, you should know that it is unfair to other people and that little by little they will get away from you.
Healthy bonds are built on trust and respect, so if your friends have to act differently or skip jokes to avoid hurting your feelings, you have a lot to work for. We cannot create lasting relationships if susceptibility gets in the way, if there are complaints and criticisms for every joke, if there are even tears for everything the other does or doesn’t do.
Friendships are to be enjoyed, to laugh together, to share experiences, to love each other even though they don’t have time to see each other, to take up conversations that were put on hold weeks ago. Even large groups of friends are formed when a friend introduces you to another of his friends and so on. Friendships are not competition, so you don’t have to demand to be number one in a person’s heart.