You miss him, but don’t go back to the one who’s hurting you
You feel a sensation that hits your chest and awakens a crazy desire to be close, to have contact, to kiss those lips, to embrace that person. Suddenly, you suffer from amnesia and forget everything that made you cry, forget the despair and the river of tears, as if nothing had happened.
What do you call that? Lack of self-respect? This article is aimed at those who have been terribly hurt in a long relationship or in a short intense relationship, people who even after suffering a lot, now want to be with the culprit or the one who is guilty of their agony.
Why do you want to go back to someone who made you suffer?
Let’s analyze the situation. Maybe the relationship ended because of a betrayal, a rejection (the person told you straight out that they didn’t love you), a break-up (they couldn’t stand each other anymore), different directions, etc. There are many factors that project a healthy long-term relationship, and at the same time there are many factors that can make you suffer a lot. But you have a hard time seeing them and that’s why you want to go back to a person who hurt you so much, with full enthusiasm.
Then, what happens is that you convince yourself that his company was wonderful, you throw the bad memories to the bottom of the sea. Or even if you are aware that their relationship was bad, you convince yourself that now things will be different and they will be happy together, but what do you base this on?
Wake up! You deserve more.
Don’t you think you deserve a person who really makes you feel good without sacrifice or tears? If he made you suffer so much, why does your flashlight keep focusing on him or her? Remember that he or she left you in the dust, that you didn’t even want to get out of bed and that he or she stole your motivation to keep going.
Forgiveness is good, but not to go back to where we were destroyed, but to move on and leave the past where it belongs. Holding a grudge is not healthy for your heart, but that does not mean that by discarding it we should forget and return from scratch to someone who does not benefit us.
Don’t go back to the one who hurt you, focus on recognizing that you deserve much more, don’t waste your youth settling for little. It’s not arrogance, it’s self-respect, you have the right to have expectations, to want a role model, you have the right to set your standards and fail those who don’t meet them.
Self-esteem is not pride, it is an unquantifiable value.
You may miss the idea you got of a person, but whenever you have to, give yourself a reality check. That person is not what you miss, the good times were not even that good, and never forget that it was he who led you to know what it is to hit rock bottom.
Come on! There are still so many friends and nice people to meet along the way, you’ve been wasting your time and energy on someone who doesn’t deserve it. But look ahead, there’s a bright path ahead of you.