There are two things that are insurmountable: lies and falsehood
Lies and falsehood are capable of destroying everything in their path, even the tallest tower falls apart if it is built on lies.
But the saddest thing about lies and falsehood is that it almost never comes from your enemies, but from people close to you. This only makes it more painful, because what hurts is not the lie, but the broken trust.
A lie casts doubt on all the truths
Lies eat away at the foundation of every good relationship. There are people who are surprisingly resourceful at telling lies, who can look you in the face with a tender smile as they stab you in the back. There are more hypocrites around you than you ever imagined.
On the other hand, there are people who only tell lies in a pathological way, their intention is not to hurt or injure, they just can’t stop lying. To these are added those who tell pious lies, because they believe that the truth can be much more painful than a small lie, but the truth is that over time many lies must be told to support the previous ones.
Some argue that any kind of lie is based on poor relationships, because when there is communication and trust, the lie is identified as a lethal enemy of these two great virtues. You only need one lie to destroy all your credibility, because although morality has many nuances, most humans think in black and white.
Lies fall under their own weight
Don’t worry if you’re afraid someone has cheated you or if you think someone’s friendship is false, because over time, lies fall apart. No one can hold up a mask for too long.
When a lie comes out of your mouth, you lose control of much of it.
Lies cannot be sustained because their foundation is sand. You probably have many clues to decipher the lie but emotional ties blind you.
Lying and falsehood are two horrible things because even though we have all lied at one time or another, we humans abhor being deceived. It is easier to forgive a few angry words, than to forgive falsehood and lying. Because when trust is broken, it is difficult to repair.
Betrayed people have a double wound, their heart is injured, confused and worst of all, they feel deeply stupid. Feeling like you’ve been taken advantage of is one of the most terrible feelings. You are mortally wounded and need to revive yourself.
How to heal the wounds of a betrayal
- Time will give you perspective, anger will go away and you will only come to feel sorry for the other person.
- Forgive yourself, stop torturing yourself thinking about what you could have avoided.
- Don’t punish yourself, don’t think that everyone is the same, because it’s the same as thinking that if you won the lottery once, you will win it every time you buy a ticket.
- It values loyalty and devalues betrayal.
- And remember: the falsehood and deception you have experienced are opportunities to learn how to choose the people in your life better.