I prefer a dignified solitude to false company
We should not look for a partner who completes us, but someone who completes us. That is why it is important to know when a companionship is false and when loneliness is more valuable.
It’s heartbreaking to have a person by our side and feel alone. There are couples who, although they are together, have very different directions, purposes and goals. This creates an abysmal distance. That’s why some people argue that “a dignified solitude is preferable to false company”. Let us reflect on this.
The pain of experiencing fake company
First of all, we must clarify that unhappy relationships are not always based on the fact that one of us offers false company or demonstrates selfish or limiting attitudes. There are people who are “unable to love” as it says in One Hundred Years of Solitude, because they do not understand what it is to share, what it is to satisfy the needs of the couple and what it is to take care of the details of a commitment that must be encouraged every day.
On the other hand, there are personalities with emotional needs and lack of emotional intelligence who, even if they love their partner, can only offer emptiness, unhappiness and therefore loneliness.
All this makes us feel that the person is offering us false company. But deep down, there is a lack of emotional maturity that generates a high level of unhappiness.
But you must also be very careful of people who only pursue their own interests, because even if they make a commitment to you, it will be false. These types of people act in the following way.
- They avoid their own loneliness, strive to maintain a relationship alone so as not to be lonely.
- They formalize the relationship with you only out of economic interest or social aspiration.
- They start a relationship only to feel loved, cared for and understood, but they do not intend to offer their partner what they receive.
A relationship is bound to fail when one of the parties is only expecting to receive, and when he or she is trying hard to do something, it is only with the intention of continuing to receive. React in time. Do not maintain a false relationship in time because you will only be subjected to worthless suffering. The relationship will not improve if the person does not want to change and establish a genuine bond with you.
The value of a dignified solitude
Loneliness will always be more valuable than an aimless relationship with a person who undermines us, who destroys our self-esteem. You probably have a terrible fear of being alone, but the origin of that fear is often found in the social prejudices that exist around loneliness. If you cure your mind and soul of this, you will be able to live both your relationships and your loneliness in a healthier way.
Not having a partner is not a failure.
You don’t have to commit to be happy. And if you can’t be happy first individually, you’ll hardly be happy in the company of another. Sometimes, it is not even the other person who offers you a false relationship, but you, from your own emptiness and insecurities.
Don’t be afraid of loneliness, because life is too short to live out other people’s plans, or wear yourself out by society’s standards.