Live without expecting anything from anyone and you’ll be much happier
We all seek happiness, that is the purpose of each person, but how we achieve it is in the unique way we each work. Life is made up of infinite decisions, successes, errors and challenges that shape us and allow us to discover and express our own personality, the configuration of our particular and special soul.
However, we can fall into the terrible habit of expecting too much from others, whether they solve our problems or endorse us. We look to others for approval that must come from ourselves.
Achieving emotional independence is a process of maturity. Sometimes our unconscious leads us to develop dependent behaviors, perhaps in a subtle way, but which are harmful and prevent us from finding happiness. If we do not manage to stand on our own two feet, to accept ourselves fully, we can fall into a constant search for approval, doing things that we do not like.
When we depend on another person we start acting under their expectations trying to become a different person than what we really should be. This attitude will only prevent us from assuming our destiny, taking responsibility for ourselves and learning to take care of ourselves. It would be like living with a mask, playing a role that does not fit us.
The most important relationship is the relationship with yourself
Many times we are taught to take care of our relationships, whether with family or friends, but rarely to cultivate the most lasting relationship we will ever have: with ourselves. It’s a constant job that requires respect, understanding, patience and lots of love.
The first step is to free ourselves from the bonds that other people may have on us and give us the opportunity to know ourselves and be loved by others for who we are and not for what we do.
Best of all, when we start to become more independent, our relationships become stronger and more authentic. We surround ourselves with people who value and respect us. Living in this way helps us to be content with ourselves, to use our own strength and to let good things happen to us.
This also gives us a lesson in tolerance, for we let others live on their terms and learn to love fully. To be independent is to take charge of our happiness and assume the challenge of finding it every day by cultivating spirituality and self-love.
Living freely
We can’t stop others from having an opinion about us, what we do or think, but the interesting thing is to let those kinds of things not matter or define. Other people’s expectations should not guide us, our path should focus on seeking those things that motivate us, fill us with enthusiasm and drive us to be better.
We have the right to be happy in the terms that we define that happiness; that’s what taking control of our destiny is all about. And even if things don’t turn out the way we want them to all the time, we can learn the lesson that the universe is showing us, to become stronger, more determined people who are willing to take on any challenge.
What are you waiting for to get the life you’ve always dreamed of and deserved? Give yourself a chance to know and love yourself and not wait for others to do things for you. Your problems are only yours and you have the strength to overcome them, you just have to take the reins and start acting positive.