A good father is one who puts his family first
In an era where consumerism holds us all hostage in its jaws, it is easy to believe that a good parent is one who buys the latest technological advances from their child. Having a sophisticated video game equipment, brand name sports shoes and belonging to an elite school seems to be the dream of many children and teenagers… but this only happens in the mentality of a parent with an escape instinct.
The video game will keep your child away from him and allow him to make his life, perhaps even most of it, away from home. Shoes and school are the perfect substitute for affection, because if the little one thinks of saying they don’t want it, there will never be a lack of the phrase: How can you say that? Do you know how much I pay for your school every month?
But a son doesn’t want any of that if these things take him away from his beloved father.
You may be reading this and belong to the group of parents who buy their child’s happiness, but it is also possible that your intentions are very different from distancing yourself and making your life. It is normal for you to be confused, since the world has become very materialistic and we are all driven to believe that love must be manifested through shopping.
Fortunately, you’ve come to the right place to hear about this strange feeling called fatherly love.
Keys that a good parent can’t stop practicing
Presence: it is necessary to be with your children for everything they need. Maybe you come home tired from work and just think about putting on your slippers and watching TV. But your son has been there waiting for hours to play ball with you or your daughter has set the table for her dolls to have tea and was waiting for you to come and serve it to her. These small details are what will make your children choose to tell you their problems in the future rather than make an irreparable mistake with their lives.
Motivation: your child’s drawing is not even close to the heels of a Picasso work. Motivation should always come before recommendation for improvement and criticism does not exist in the childhood stage. The child needs to explore, express himself and make mistakes, and your task is to tell him that he does everything wonderfully. Later, you can go back to the drawing and teach him some technique to improve his strokes, but always keep in mind motivation as a way to communicate with him.
Your family comes first: work can wait, meetings can be postponed and you can meet with friends another day, but when your family needs you, they need you now and you need to come to them.
You are an active part of their upbringing: you are actively involved in their upbringing and growth. And that includes changing diapers, bathing them, taking them to soccer or ballet practice, and telling them a bedtime story.
A good father chooses his family over everything else, even over his personal interests.