Learn to forget by remembering
Time has passed and you can not forget that person who was part of you, but who paid you badly, hurt you, maybe you cheated and finally abandoned you. Just think about seeing him again, dreaming of the moment when you can be with her or him again.
Do you realize how much damage you’re doing to yourself? If the relationship ended, it was because it wasn’t working, and if you can’t let go, it’s because you don’t want to. Everything in life requires an effort, you make an effort to start walking, to learn to ride a bike, to learn to write, to read, and for every single thing you do in your life.
So why do you think forgetting that person who was toxic in your life isn’t going to require an effort? Of course it does and if you can’t find a way to get it out of your mind and move on you have to do something drastic.
You can’t handle the memories
If you’re still stuck in the same relationship, chances are you won’t stop remembering, seeing your ex’s photos, gifts, emails. You go to the places where they frequented and you dedicate yourself to remembering every single thing that they lived together in those places.
Every time you want to do something, you remember what it was like to do it with that person and your desire goes away immediately, leaving again a deep sadness. The memories are consuming you and you don’t know how to stop.
I don’t know if you want to forget it and go back to being happy or if remembering this way is the best thing for you. But what I do know is that it hurts you and you have to stop.
But if you don’t want to stop remembering, I’ll tell you the most beneficial way for you to remember at this time.
Forget remembering
That’s right, if you decided that your grief for this couple would be using your memories, I’m going to tell you how to keep remembering and forgetting forever this person who hurt you.
You will not stop remembering, but you will stop at this very moment of remembering the beautiful things that you lived. It’s obvious that if you’re no longer together, it’s because it’s ceased to exist.
Then he starts to remember, yes, but everything bad he did, he remembers why he ended the relationship, if he cheated on you, the times he stood you up, if he talked to you like you didn’t deserve it. Every single thing that made that relationship end.
No more beautiful memories to which you often put more romanticism than there really was. Remember that person hurt you.
Not to take revenge, that’s never. But to understand that you deserve better, that you were not valued and that wasting time thinking about someone who did not contribute enough to your life does not benefit you.
When you remember everything that was really your relationship at the time of its termination, you will realize that it was not good and stop suffering and longing to return to it.
If you don’t want to stop remembering, remember what will make you heal and stop stabbing your mind to keep suffering.