Reasons why your ex comes back for you and none of them are for love
When we receive his call, the illusion takes hold of us again and we take it for granted that he could never forget us. Unfortunately, most of the times your ex is looking for you, it’s not out of love.
Psychology explains the reasons that lie behind a former partner contacting us again. Be prepared, because disappointment is knocking at your door.
Five reasons to bring your ex back
Seeks an intimate encounter: The search for intimacy is a very common reason why people turn to their ex. Unfortunately, they often do it in such a loving way and adorn everything with such promising words that we believe everything they say. The truth is that when an ex wants to get back together with you out of love, he never looks beyond a conversation when he brings it up. On the other hand, when he is only looking for intimacy to disappear again, you can easily detect him because of his lack of patience to get to that moment.
Jealousy of your current partner: When you haven’t heard from your former partner until you finally start dating, it’s a red flag. He may tell you that he loves you and that he hasn’t been able to stop thinking about you, but that’s not true. Some people can’t stand the thought of being replaced. When narcissism is part of our personality, we believe that our ex will come back begging at our side, but when this doesn’t happen, and worse, when they find out that there is someone else in their love’s life, they may try to get his attention in every way possible.
She has gotten used to you: habit is the great enemy of love, but we find it hard to realize it. We think we love madly the person with whom we have shared so many good moments, but that feeling is nothing but habit. The worst thing happens when the relationship ends, because the partner who had got used to it, usually feels lost and tries to recover something that in reality he does not want to recover.
He has not made any progress: personal stagnation also leads a person to look for his ex. This happens most often when this person sees that his or her ex-partner has outgrown himself or herself and is now much better off. This makes them associate her with well-being and want to be with her.
He needs to regain his confidence: low self-esteem is the opposite of narcissism, but both result in finding a former partner whom we no longer love. When a person is abandoned by his partner, he may blame himself entirely, destroying his self-esteem and self-confidence. It is then that their ex-partner becomes their lifeline and tries to win her back, but not because they love her, but because they need to feel loved and their ex-partner seems to be the most promising person to give them that love.