Self-Love: keys to start loving ourselves
Cultivating self-esteem is very important, because on it depends the relationships we choose, what we attract, what people we surround ourselves with, what we allow and what we think we deserve. Everyone tells us that if we cultivate self-esteem, we can transform our lives, but how do we do that? Here we show you 4 keys to achieve a harmonious relationship with ourselves.
Pay attention to your internal dialogue: What do you say to yourself?
Many times we ourselves are our own greatest critic. Many times we can be very hard and demanding and discredit the achievements we have. People can have successes and mistakes and it’s okay, a mistake or a failure doesn’t define us. The important thing is to learn from them and improve through them.
There’s no need to be so hard on us. When you feel very down and you feel that everything is wrong, ask yourself: What things do you say to yourself constantly? Are you able to filter out your thoughts? Do you question them? Do you contrast them with reality? Meditate on it, stop for a moment and identify your thoughts, maybe many of them are automatic or polarized. When we stop and meditate on them, we may realize that they can maximize or minimize our successes or failures.
Your body, your temple
Our body is not only a means to wake up and go out to perform our daily activities. Our body is part of us, it is our ultimate belonging, it is our manifesto in this world. Therefore, exposing it to unhealthy living habits, not respecting the pain it feels, not giving it a rest when it feels exhausted, is a sign that we are not nurturing our self-esteem.
Our body is our temple, let’s take care of it, let’s respect it, let’s take care of our health, let’s go to health services to clear up doubts, to know the state in which it is, it is preferable to try to have a healthy diet, give it a proper rest and do some physical activity.
Self as a priority
Self-esteem allows us to respect ourselves and this means putting our feelings and convictions first. Not in a selfish way, we can have empathy, but we know that when someone wants to make us believe that we are not valuable, we refute, we defend ourselves and if the other continues to harm us we walk away.
Self-love allows us to put ourselves first so that when we want to help others, we are aware that to do so, we must first be well. Becoming our priority allows us not to fall into the extreme of giving too much, allows us to have a balance and take care of our dignity and integrity, allows us to set limits so that we can receive the same respect and love that we give to others.
Have a personal vision, goals and purpose
What are we here for? Do you just wait until the weekend to go to a party or take a break from the overwhelming week? Is that it? What moves you? What makes you feel alive? What makes this time of life that touched you meaningful? You only live once, but does the life we are building have meaning and purpose or does it drift, just living in the moment without direction?
Take some time to work out your life plan, your goals, ask yourself where you are going, what you need to achieve those you want. Develop a personal mission that relates to your values.
This step is very important for your evolution and for the firmness with which you defend yourself and decide in important moments. When you have your objectives clear, you acquire the necessary security to make the right decisions in life and you can put yourself first.
Each of us has the power to design the life we want, but that will depend on the actions we take to solve situations, our ability to learn from what happens to us and the decisions we make, but the basis for all this is proper self-esteem. There will be many difficult moments in life, but when we have adequate self-esteem as a basis we will be able to cope with whatever comes our way and will be able to find the strength to recover again.
Come on, we can all rebuild our history, we encourage you to start this journey of self-discovery and self-love.