Attitudes that drain our energy
Do you feel discouraged, listless, perhaps lacking energy or mentally and physically exhausted? You may have some attitudes that are draining all your energy. Certainly energy drives us and is essential to carry out our daily activities and meet our most basic needs.
This leads us to ask ourselves Where does all our strength go? and What takes away so much energy, even though we perform a physical activity it is our mind that absorbs all our energy. This often arises due to our habits, thoughts, attitudes, even some activities that without realizing it consume all our energy and harm us.
In this article, we will help you identify these attitudes and give you some solutions to manage them.
1. Overthinking things
Many people tend to worry and overthink an issue. This can cause your mood to drop and does not help you find a solution to your problems but focuses on a distorted and pessimistic approach to life.
If you have a tendency to think too much, it is important that you can develop the ability to cut off those thoughts that are limiting you, to reinterpret and replace them with other more constructive ones that do trigger and raise your will power.
2. Wanting to please everyone
Trying to please everyone can end up not pleasing ourselves. Many times we say yes to others, even against our will, desires and feelings. In this case, it is key to say no to everything that overrides us and to put ourselves in the first place, respecting our value before others for this we can apply assertiveness.
3. Complaining about everything
The incessant complaining can even try the patience of others. Feeling uncomfortable with a daily situation is normal and healthy, but doing it over and over again is useless, does not solve the problem and above all consumes our energy. Therefore, when you think about complaining ask yourself if it is worth it, if there are really reasons or if it is just a mania.
Complaining about everything besides consuming your energy takes valuable time out of your life that cannot be recovered. Change what you can and learn to turn the page when you can’t do anything.
4. Trying to control everything
This is one of the attitudes that can exhaust us the most, since it involves a great effort that only causes frustration and anxiety when we do not reach that control we want. The truth is, we cannot control everything around us, there are situations that get out of hand. The world is in constant movement and what is today will no longer be tomorrow, no matter how much we want to, we cannot control everything.
It is important to let everything flow from situations to relationships, being aware that control hurts us and we can hurt others.
5. Living the life of others
Living our life from the point of view of others, it is as if you are not happy with yourself and your life. The person who lives his life through others lacks self-respect. In order to deal with this we must become aware of the emotional problem and work on our self-esteem in a real and objective way through our realization as a person.
Assuming our role as protagonists and not as victims, taking control of our lives.
6. Living in the past
When we live anchored in the past, we continually relive what has already happened, that unfortunately we cannot recover that which we yearn for from the past, however much we may want to change it.
Instead, we have the present to act and do the things that are within our reach. Living from the past takes energy away from us and exhausts us mentally, it is necessary to live the here and now, to take advantage of our time which is short in order to grow and advance with our life.
7. Being with negative people.
There are people around us who are toxic, noxious and harmful who instead of adding up subtract us. These people complain instead of solving, they demotivate us, they stand still instead of moving forward, they steal all our energy and time, they can even infect us with their negativity and they pass on their problems to us.
It is important that you are attentive to this type of person and avoid falling into their nets, be aware that they do not bring you anything useful or authentic, so it is best to make clear from the beginning what you expect from that relationship and what you can give in return. Do not allow them to exceed your limits and manipulate your feelings.